Motherhood may sound like the most wonderful thing that can happen, but with it comes less money in your pocket, challenging days and shorter nights. You learn a little bit more about yourself every day – the strengths you never knew you had, feelings you never felt before, and doing the things you thought were impossible. But above all that, motherhood is knowing joy and happiness every time you see that toothless smile, even while experiencing the most challenging days.
Yesterday marked the first celebration for Rey, our little monster. But more than that, we (both the husband and I) survived a year of parenthood! As I look back at the past year, so many things has changed for us. Growing up in an asian family, extended families were everything, the joy and the laughters I remember came hand in hand with my siblings, cousins, grandparents and aunties alike. I never knew how things could be different up until we had our own. Being thousands of miles away from our families while having a child meant taking care of Rey 24/7, without breaks and what I would consider “without sleep” too. There were more times I found myself frustrated than not, it was 6 months of rough days. In the little of things, I did find joy too, that moment when Rey sticked out her tongue for the first time, the day she chuckled, the day she giggled as I tickled her toes, the day she smiled at her dad when he came home from work.
So happy first birthday my little chiquita. You are the joy we never knew we wanted, you are our little “ray” of sunshine even on gloomy days.
And finally Rey,
I wish you the strength to face challenges with confidence, along with the wisdom to choose your battles carefully, an adventure on your journey, and may you always stop to help someone along the way. Listen to your heart and take risks carefully.
Dad & Mum